You Already Have the Answers Within You

One habit I notice with my own anxiety, as well as those I work with, is the desire to search for answers outside of ourselves. This could look like obsessive reassurance seeking, googling, reading, etc. It’s this idea that someone else knows better than we do or that someone else might be able to “fix” us. Continue reading

Stopping the Comparison Game

I have to be honest, I can fall into the trap of comparing my life to others quite often. Social media and the little snippets of contrived goodness we see of others’ lives only makes it that much easier to think that others have it great, especially if we ourselves are struggling.

I remember when I was in the midst of panic disorder and completely nonfunctional, I would see other people doing simple things that I couldn’t do, like going out with friends or holding a steady job, and I would subsequently feel awful about myself. I would wonder why others had it so easy and I was barely making it through the day. I would get jealous and angry. Continue reading

What’s Beneath the Anxiety?

If there’s one thing I’ve noticed, it’s that I have an impressive ability to distract myself and “run” from the things I deem too difficult to feel. I’ve been working with a private student for a few weeks now who is struggling with intense anxiety and depression, and I’ve begun seeing this tendency in her as well. There’s this overwhelming desire to find anything and everything to take us out of our misery. Because when we slow down enough and get still enough, it feels like we can’t handle the intensity of the pain within us. Continue reading

You Are Not Stuck: Neuroplasticity and the Ability to Change

When we’re struggling with mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and depersonalization, we can often begin to feel frustrated at our lack of progress. We might even begin to think that maybe it will always be this way. Even when we see others overcoming and flourishing, we might wonder whether we’re just stuck like this- that maybe our brains are just wired differently and there’s nothing we can do about it. Continue reading

Smiling at Fear

Fear does a really, really good job at convincing us it is real. Throughout my years of experiencing anxiety, panic, intrusive thoughts, depression, etc., I’ve had moments where I was so entangled in my thoughts and fears as being very real. As if I had every reason to be scared and to react and to fight and to give in. Continue reading