One habit I notice with my own anxiety, as well as those I work with, is the desire to search for answers outside of ourselves. This could look like obsessive reassurance seeking, googling, reading, etc. It’s this idea that someone else knows better than we do or that someone else might be able to “fix” us. Continue reading
I have to be honest, I can fall into the trap of comparing my life to others quite often. Social media and the little snippets of contrived goodness we see of others’ lives only makes it that much easier to think that others have it great, especially if we ourselves are struggling.
I remember when I was in the midst of panic disorder and completely nonfunctional, I would see other people doing simple things that I couldn’t do, like going out with friends or holding a steady job, and I would subsequently feel awful about myself. I would wonder why others had it so easy and I was barely making it through the day. I would get jealous and angry. Continue reading
If there’s one thing I’ve noticed, it’s that I have an impressive ability to distract myself and “run” from the things I deem too difficult to feel. I’ve been working with a private student for a few weeks now who is struggling with intense anxiety and depression, and I’ve begun seeing this tendency in her as well. There’s this overwhelming desire to find anything and everything to take us out of our misery. Because when we slow down enough and get still enough, it feels like we can’t handle the intensity of the pain within us. Continue reading
When we’re struggling with mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and depersonalization, we can often begin to feel frustrated at our lack of progress. We might even begin to think that maybe it will always be this way. Even when we see others overcoming and flourishing, we might wonder whether we’re just stuck like this- that maybe our brains are just wired differently and there’s nothing we can do about it. Continue reading
If you’re anything like me, you might have learned early on that you needed to gain others’ approval in order to feel worthy. This may have led to perfectionist tendencies and a deep desire to people-please. Continue reading
As many of you have probably witnessed, the “Me Too” movement, which seeks to shed light on sexual assault by encouraging those who have dealt with it to share “me too,” has flooded social media over the last couple days. I absolutely and completely LOVE that this subject is being talked about on such a widespread scale. Finally, right??
Fear does a really, really good job at convincing us it is real. Throughout my years of experiencing anxiety, panic, intrusive thoughts, depression, etc., I’ve had moments where I was so entangled in my thoughts and fears as being very real. As if I had every reason to be scared and to react and to fight and to give in. Continue reading
It’s been a tough few weeks in terms of horrific things happening in the world. Having to hear and see the news of so much devastation and suffering caused by the hurricanes, as well as the recent Las Vegas shooting, can be tough to swallow. Continue reading
Relationships are hard work whether you deal with mental health issues or not. Yet, when we’re overwhelmed with fear and struggling with our own thoughts, it can add an extra layer of difficulty to navigate through a healthy partnership. Continue reading
As many of you know, my right hip has been hurting the past few months. The doctor ordered an MRI, but I kept putting it off for as long as possible before seeing a specialist, only to have the test ordered again. Continue reading